Asking powerful Questions
Getting to the bottom of what is important to the client requires asking them lots of questions. These questions need to be powerful and really challenge the client to think about what really is the most important priority for them and how different priorities are ordered in their minds.
As a coach there are many, many questions that you can ask that can help to better understand a client and to get them to open up and talk with you. Asking open questions, not those with yes/no/one word answers will be best for getting a client to open up. Following is dedicated to a list of questions that you can use with your clients.
Questions to uncover the desired goals
• What is most important to you?
• What would be the best outcome possible for this situation?
• If you achieved just one thing in the rest of your life, what would you want that to be?
• How does X,Y,Z make you feel?
• What does your gut tell you to do?
• How would you like to be able to act in that kind of situation?
• What do you really want from this situation?
• How do you want people to see you?
• What are your goals?
• How much energy and time are you prepared to put into achieving your goals?
• Why do you think you are here?
Questions for setting goals
• What is going well for you at the moment?
• What would you like to get out of this session?
• What is the most important area to work on right now?
• What is the biggest issue that you face right now?
• What do you want to have achieved by the end of this session?
Questions to get clients thinking?
• Do you actually think that is true?
• If you were me what would you tell me in this situation?
• Do you really believe that? Really?
• What feels right for you in this situation?
• Is that true? How do you know?
• What is that little voice in your head telling you?
• What does that tell you about you?
• What questions do you think that makes me think of?
• What is your gut telling you?
• Do you trust yourself?
• Do you listen to yourself?
• What can you learn from this?
• How is that going for you?
• What options do you have?
• Are there any other options?
• Does any of these options align with your goals?
Questions about taking action
• If you did that, how would it make you feel?
• Who can support you with this change?
• How can you improve how you do that?
• How does this information help you?
• What do you need to help you do that?
• What are you willing to do to change that?
• What do you plan to do about that?
• Is there a small step that you can take to get things moving in the right direction?
• What if you do X, Y or Z?
• What do you want to do about that?
• What if you do not do anything about that?
• How can you best use your time at the moment?
• What is the next step?
• Who will make the decisions?
• What else could you do?
• Is that assumption correct?
• Why do you believe that?
• If someone else was in this situation what would you tell them to do?
• Is there anything else that we are missing in this situation?
• What positive steps can you take here?
• Do you think you have done everything that you could? Really?
• Are your beliefs limiting you?
• If you did Z what would be the outcome?
• What is the biggest issue right now?
• What if X happens? What would you do then?
• Who controls that?
• What is standing in your way? How can you get past that?
• Is this moving along too quickly/too slowly for you? How can you change that?
• If you choose to do nothing, what will that mean for you?
• What is holding you back? Why?
Questions for dealing with fear
• What is the worst that could happen if you did that?
• What would you do if you were not fearful?
• What is the worst possible outcome?
• What would you do if that worst case scenario unfolded?
• Could you handle it if the worst situation happens?
• How can you overcome that fear?
• What would be different if you did not feel afraid?
• What do you need to move past?
• Is that serving you?
• How do you think they would react to a “no” from you?
• Is something missing here?
• If you could start from the beginning what would you do?
• What would you tell the younger version of you if they were faced with this situation?
• What is the truth of this situation?
• What do you need to do to let that go?
• Will that create problems with you?
• How could you be persuaded to take that step?
Questions for self-awareness of strengths
• What are you good at?
• In what ways were you successful this month?
• What would your friends/colleagues/family say are your strengths?
• What did you learn from that?
• What worked for you in that situation?
• How could you have handled that differently?